Death in the digital age… "You are dead but you keep popping up"

A few weeks ago I wrote a blog titled,  “You are dead but you keep popping up”.  I mentioned some of the growing concerns about what happens to our “digital life” following death, some of the issues that loved ones experience during bereavement, and how complex this has become.

I am curious about an upcoming conference titled the  Digital Death Day Conference, on October 6,2012, in London England. This is definately a topic that we will hear more about in the coming years.

Please let me know if you attend!  I am interested in hearing more!  (I wish the conference was before Sept 4th 2012 when I start to teach the online course “Death and Dying in the 21st Century” .  It would add to the discussion!)

You are dead, but you keep popping up!

Have you had a friend die, only to have them “pop up” on your Facebook page?   This is only one of the challenges of death and Social Media.

Franca Posner is a counselor in private practice.  Currently she has no website, and is not a social media buff, but she has become an expert on issues pertaining to death and the internet.  Why?

“The topic kept coming up in Widows groups .  They talked about being on Facebook and having their loved ones name pop up.  One widow said, “I was on Facebook and was notified that David (her deceased husband) was friends with….”    Another told of receiving an email through Facebook AFTER the death.   They told of their problem accessing sites when they did not have the username and/or the password.  There were so many issues raised.  I had to get informed.”

Franca invites people to “Take 30 seconds, think of all the sites that you are registered with, and write down your usernames and passwords.” She suggests that most people are overwhelmed and not readily prepared to complete this task.

Franca recommends that people who use the internet assign a “cyberexecutor”.  Cyberexecutives should know your usernames and passwords, and what you want done with your online presence following death.

How about you?  Can you list the sites, usernames? and passwords that you have one the internet?

Who is your “cyberexecutor”?

What are your thoughts about cyberexecutives?  What about your digital life after your death?

What do you know about Facebook and accessing an account after someone dies?  Or, What do you want done with your Facebook account should when you die?

We are looking forward to a guest presentation with Franca during the “Death and Dying in the 21st Century” online course.

Warm regards,


PS For more information on Franca, you can find her in

PPS Do you know about the Digital Death Day  Conference in England?