We remember…

George and Harry head off to war, pictured here with sister Janet. Both made it back from war.

George and Harry Gilbert as they head off to war, pictured here with sister Janet. Both made it back.

Clayton Gilbert, 1941

Clayton Gilbert, 1941

As Remembrance Day approaches, I reflect, in particular, on those who fought in wars to provide us with the freedoms we enjoy today. Ann-Marie, Ted and I cherish those in our families who participated in WW I and II. We are grateful that they returned home, and because they came home, that we have life.

I think of my grandfather, Harold Andrew Lees, and his experience in WW I. Near the beginning of the war he was shot, lost his eye, and was then in a German prisoner of war camp. I hear that they treated him well. We still have his warm wool blanket. I remember as a child, he would tell me it was time for me to have a nap, he would then remove his eye, put it in a glass jar, and tell me that he was watching me to make sure that I slept. It is one of my earliest memories – it surely did stick with me!

1st Radar Equipped Aircraft, Year of "Hess" 1941

Patrick Gilbert, (in aircraft) with the first radar-equipped aircraft, Preswick, Year of “Hess” 1941



Major G.H. Gilbert, MC, MM, VD, circa 1921

Major G.H. Gilbert, MC, MM, VD, circa 1921

Roland and Bob Gilbert, with family friend in military

Roland and Bob Gilbert, with family friend in military

A few weeks ago, Ted and I had the privilege to be invited to attend the ELNEC 20th Anniversary Summit in Hawaii. Following the conference we had a few days on the island of Oahu. On the last afternoon, toured by Jeannie White, we visited the War Veterans Memorial in Honolulu. We visited the columbarium that holds the ashes of her father. It was exactly 103 years since his birth. I gave thanks to him, for his daughter Punky, I pondered her life growing up in Hawaii, our meeting as young adults, and all that she has meant to me and to us.

As Remembrance Day approaches, I cringe to think how many soldiers hid their memories, tried to hide their terrors, and carried scars through to their deaths. I think of those we know who live with their scars and suffer with PTSD. In their suffering, they surely do not enjoy the same freedoms that I enjoy.

As Remembrance Day approaches, I am aware that the freedoms that I enjoy, are not experienced by all in North America and certainly are not experienced by many people around the world. I wonder what I can do, or what I can stop doing, to help others enjoy greater freedom. I ponder and pray that we can protect or gain freedom without war and violence. And I wonder if this is possible.

As Remembrance Day approaches, I think of you, and wonder what you will be pondering, what you will hope for and what might you pray for.

With kindness


[Photos from Ann-Marie’s family archive]

Voices to Lead | A Modern Application of Florence Nightingale’s Legacy

Guest Post by Angela Bruce, RN

Florence Nightingale in the Crimean War

Photo Credit: www.healinghealth.com

When I think of a single nurse’s voice, Florence Nightingale comes to mind. In the midst of the Crimean War battlefields, the “lady with a lamp” provided compassionate care to the sick and injured, murmuring words of comfort and offering a touch to frightened boys, some crying out in distress. In the squalor Florence triaged as she went, knowing that so many needed care and that few would survive to see another day. While Florence is known as the “lady with the lamp” she also used her voice to effect change. She galvanized others to lead with their voices and demand changes. Voices that said it was not acceptable that ten times as many soldiers died in the Crimean War from infectious diseases than from injuries, and that it was also not acceptable that hospital floors in England were covered in straw that was matted with urine and blood. These voices for led to the sanitary conditions and standards of care that we have today.

Today, there are still many serious issues affecting health care where voices that lead could effect change, such as:    

  • Lack of access to care for any people in need
  • Scarcity of resources, e.g., personnel, diagnostic services and so on
  • Non-essential antibiotic use in a world of increasingly resistant organisms
  • Restricted access to opioids for people experiencing pain and other severe symptoms, in response to overdose deaths and the Opioid Crisis.

I hope nurses can agree that these are urgent issues.

Voices to Lead for Palliative Care Education

Voices to lead can help ensure hospice and palliative care education for everyone

Photo Credit: https://moments.nhpco.org/news-blogs/hospice-photography

Each of the serious issues listed above directly affects the capacity of health care professionals to provide hospice, palliative and end-of-life care. In 2018 the Government of Canada’s Framework on Palliative Care in Canada Act acknowledged the need to prepare caregivers in their long term goal that stated, “… all providers have increased capacity to deliver quality (palliative) care.” Preparing primary care teams to integrate palliative care for individuals with any life-limiting illness, from early in the disease process through to and following death, in all care settings will help address the serious issues listed above. Using our voices together to integrate and strengthen palliative care education in core curriculum has the potential to prepare health care professionals to deliver palliative care by:

  • Placing the topic of death on the table as a normal part of living and a topic for discussion.
  • Encouraging information sharing, advance care planning and discussions of goals of care.
  • Supporting the intentional use of emergency departments and acute hospital admissions.
  • Supporting informed and effective prescribing of medications for symptom management (including safe prescribing of opioids).

Providing learner-centered palliative care education in the workplace, and mentoring individuals before, during and after education, may also inspire more members of the health care team to seek out additional education and become specialist palliative care providers.

With the aging population, limited resources, and the desire to provide excellent care for people with any life-limiting illness, palliative care needs to be part of core curriculum for every member of the health care team.

Just as our predecessors used their voices to lead and improve care for today, let us join our voices to lead and improve care for tomorrow. 

What are PSWs saying about the text, Integrating a Palliative Approach?

Life and Death Matters reached out to a few colleges and hospices using the text, Integrating a Palliative Approach: Essentials for Personal Support Workers, and companion resources in their teaching  and asked permission to survey students about their learning experiences in hospice and palliative care. An online survey was distributed to individuals who used the resources and were completing their practicum, had graduated or had completed a self-study program. The survey results resoundingly endorsed the text, Integrating a Palliative Approach: Essentials for Personal Support Workers, as a positive learning tool for learning to provide hospice, palliative and end-of-life care.

In the survey, students were asked to reflect on their learning experiences and indicate which statements they agreed with. These are some of the results:

  • 80% indicated “I will keep this text and continue to use this in my practice.”
  • 75% indicated  “I know how to support a person experiencing common symptoms of life-limiting illness”
  • 74% indicated “I strengthened my skills for communicating with people experiencing life-limiting illness and their family.”
  • 83% reported “I learned why self-care is important, and how to provide self-care.”

Students self-reported what they had learned from the text and companion resources. The results indicate the percentage of respondants who reported learning each topic from the text and resources.

  • 90% – How to recognize different patterns of dying
  • 88% – Ways to prepare myself for providing hospice and palliative care
  • 86% – Strategies for communicating with a person and family about difficult topics
  • 83% – How to recognize, observe, record and report when a person is experiencing a common symptom, e.g., pain.
  • 83% – The different ways people experience loss and grief, and how to provide appropriate support
  • 88% – The common changes in the last days and hours of life and how to support a dying person and family
  • 86% – How to provide self-care to maintain my personal health when working in hospice and palliative care.


This survey strongly supports teaching hospice, palliative and end-of-life care to PSW students using the text, Integrating a Palliative Approach: Essentials for Personal Support Workers, and companion workbook, podcasts and videos.

There are more results, including the interview of instructors to report. Look for that information in upcoming blog posts.


Today is Advance Care Planning Day and Why it Matters

When someone says, “It was a good death” they may mean that from their personal perspective it was a good death. However, a death is only a “good death” if the person who is/was dying is honoured and their needs, preferences and goals are considered as life circumstances change, disease progresses and care plans are developed. In striving to honour the individual, perhaps then we can talk about a good death, an  appropriate or a person-centered death.

“Three-quarters of Canadians (74%) report having thought about end-of-life.” (1)

But how many of these individuals have talked with people close to them about their preferences? How many have spoken with their health care team and recorded their thoughts? How many have documented Advance Care Plans? If wishes and preferences are not shared and documented, it may be difficult to honour and meet a person’s wishes for an appropriate death.

This is where Advance Care Planning comes in.  Advance Care Planning is one step in helping a person experience a good death, an appropriate, or a person-centered death. Advance Care Planning can greatly assist health care professionals to provide best care, to support each person to live life fully until their last breath, and to honour them following death. In the next decade, Baby Boomers may start benefiting from the integration of a palliative approach in their care. As this large and vocal portion of the population reaches their senior years and deals with life-limiting illness, it is possible that engaging in Advance Care Planning may become as normal as developing birth care plans for expectant parents. 

Today is Advance Care Planning Day. It is your day to discuss what is important to you, what you think you might like when you are sick, when you are declining, and ultimately, when you are dying. This is your time to talk with those who are close to you, to record your thoughts, and share your thoughts with your physician or nurse practitioner. Begin the conversation today and continue to discuss plans as circumstances change.

Whatever your preferences, today is the day to open the door, and set a time to talk with someone who is important to you about your wishes.

The Speak-Up Campaign provides resources to stimulate conversations and guides to help you record thoughts. In the United States, the National Healthcare Decisions Day and the Conversation Project provides resources for making your wishes known. The Life and Death Matters Care Planning Cookies can stimulate conversations.

Go for it.